As
you'd imagine – like most people in public ministry I see a huge
number of funerals.Last year alone I conducted more than 60, varying
hugely from a really wonderful thanksgiving for a lady who died some
months after her 100th birthday, full of faith and
resurrection hope, to the almost silent pathos of a family saying
Goodbye to the baby they'd never known outside the womb....and with much else in
between.
Funerals
matter.
They
are a moment when even the least reflective people find themselves
wondering about the purpose of life – and our destination
afterwards.
They
are a time when hardened atheists may pause, agnostics find
unexpected comfort
But
they are generally times when all we can do is just be
there...offering our love and our sadness.
We
don't go to a funeral with high hopes and I'm really not sure how the
average congregation would react if the deceased was abruptly
restored to life in the course of the service.
Can
you imagine it?
Seriously
CAN you imagine it?
Do
you, do I , actually believe that God might intervene like that –
might do so at any moment, or have we somehow convinced ourselves
that He is no longer actively involved in our world, that the age of
miracles is dead, that the impossible will never happen...
After
all, our world view is very different from that of the ancients. They
understood that everything in life was a gift from God – above all
life itself. We have been reading Job in the Daily Office recently -
“The Lord gives and the Lord takes away. Blessed be the name of the
Lord” he said, as he dealt with his own cataclysmic losses – but
for the most part that's not where we are today.
We
are encouraged to believe in our own cleverness – and regard death
as almost an affront.
With
all our scientific and technological advances – bodies still wear
out, and hearts stop beating.
And
it still hurts as much as ever it did.
So
– come with me to the small town of Nain, just down the road from
Capernaum...Be part of the crowd that follows Jesus...Go with him
towards the gate of the town
But
as we approach – we are met by another procession – led by a
woman weeping for her only son.
Not
only has she lost her husband – and thus her place in society as a
married woman – but now she is left without any protector, any hope
of economic security...She is left desolate, a non-person with
neither rights nor hopes – just as the widow of Zaraphath was left
desolate centuries before.
Stand
with me as a representative of all the helpless, grieving people of
the world comes, full of the pain of goodbye, towards the Lord of
Life himself.
Watch
as he confronts her in all her misery – not stepping discreetly
aside to let the corget pass, but pausing there in the middle of the
road to look on as tears run down that mother's cheeks.
Jesus
looks at her – and sees the truth of her situation.
He
looks – and his heart goes out to her.
He
FEELS her grief as his own -for that is what compassion means – to
suffer alongside those who are suffering.
Then,
flouting convention once more he touches the lifeless body of her
son, stepping outside the Law, making himself unclean...
He
reaches out in love.
He
doesn't just say “there there, never mind...” he ACTS to make a
difference offering comfort beyond her wildest hopes and dreams,
changing her sorrow to joy.
What
a gift!
Hope
from despair...life from death...through
the
work and words of Jesus,
Fantastic.
But
do you have just a twinge of
“that
was then. This
is now. What
about hope and joy for the grief of today?”
Yes,
these ARE different
times, and
ours is a different understanding of the ways of the world but
it
is the
SAME GOD OF COMPASSION who meets us in our grief and offers hope
When
we are at rock bottom, certain that there IS no hope to be found –
so
often
we will gradually realise that God is there, beside us in the
darkness, sharing our pain and
offering a route to transformation and a new beginning.
We
may not experience a physical miracle like those which brought joy to
the widows in our readings, but we can and should expect to be
touched by the God of compassion who is always making all things new.
These
stories of life restored are not fables of long ago and far away but
a
testimony to the God who cares about life here
and now...the God who invites us to live life
in all its fullness
and invites
us, too, to
do all
we can to counter the life-denying powers at work in our world.
For
you see, once we are touched by God, we too can be agents of his
compassion – we too can be part of the change that we long for –
we too can offer gifts of life and hope.
Yesterday
tens
of thousands gathered in Hyde Park for “the big IF” - a gathering
to remind the G8 of the obligation that we have as human beings to
care for one another, a challenge to the mind-set that seems content
that poverty should continue in the face of plenty...You
might have been among them...or one of the thousands of others who
sent messages on-line expressing the longing for a fairer sharing of
the earth's resources, an end to unthinking injustice.
Whoever
we are, we
can all manage small
acts of care and compassion, we
can look beyond stereotypes to
recognise
our brothers and sisters who struggle today –
whether we meet them in the Shambles or simply on our tv screens.
We
can commit ourselves to
include rather than exclude, to
create a climate in which the seeds of new life and hope can flourish
in people’s lives, however fragile they appear.
Miracles
DO happen today.
They
happen because God's compassion is always at work.
God
reaches out as surely to the 1.5 million widows in Afghanistan today
as he did to the two widows whose stories we've heard this morning.
God
cares as much as God ever did – and God cares so much that there is
nothing he will not do to bring love and healing.
But
God loves us so much that he wants us to be part of that enterprise,
to work with him, to be signs of healing and hope ourselves.
So
– let us ask, today, for the gift of compassion.
It
comes as a treasure from a
loving God who invites his children to love one another as He loves
us...a God who knows that his love is the strongest power in creation
– a power that can raise the dead and transform the living.
I love your thinking - widow if Nain is the story in my mind to be behind the funereal work.. ESP fitting for this weekend as I am at the funereal exhibition. We must meet up!
ReplyDeleteThank you Kathryn
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